I went to the wet market and found some lovely okras. They looked so fresh and firm. Some people like to pluck off the tips to see if it snaps and if it does, it means it's young and crunchy, good to eat but I find this a pretty appalling act when they snap it and don't take it. So who's going to buy the martyred ones? What I do is, feel the firmness and know the color, so far it worked for me.